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Lady in the Mirror – A Testimony

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Written by Barbara – Angels by Grace Feb. 1997

For thirty seven years I have felt shame and guilt. I had no self worth and felt very ugly.

These are some of the feelings that was the result of sexual abuse done to me and also being raped by various people on various occasions when I was between the ages of five and seventeen.

Because of that abuse when I looked in the mirror I saw distortions. Like when you look in a mirror at the carnival. That’s how I saw myself and I hated what I saw.

Since I have been in the Angel Group Support Group I am now able to look in the mirror and see the tears and feel the pain. I can look at my image in the mirror and see what God sees. He sees me as beautiful and He loves me. I now look in the mirror and say aloud, “I love you” and feel I can love myself, now. You see God has always been with me. I can now feel His warm and loving arms around me.

My prayer:

God, thank you for showing me the truth. I can now love myself and others. Please be with those that are suffering. In Jesus Name. Amen

I love you all.


Christian based support groups help!

Blessings to you.

Taking the First Step

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The door slides open easily and quietly and my eyes fall on a stack of fliers lying on the counter top. I walk slowly toward them, curiosity pulling me toward them. Picking one up and reading I see the bold imprint at the top.


If you were sexually abused as a child, let the Lord help you heal.

As though the paper is on fire I suddenly drop it. Quickly glancing around in hopes that no one has seen me. “No one knows” rushes through my mind as I rush out the door. Leaving the flier behind does not alleviate the nervousness I feel. For the rest of the day the words on the flier keep playing over and over in my mind. Finally I return and quickly grab a flier from the stack and stuff it in my purse.

That is how many women have started the healing process. The fliers I left in the church lobby were soon gone and the first meeting of the support group for women began. Many women had never told of the abuse they suffered as children. They had never sought counseling because to admit to the atrocities done to them as children was so filled with shame and guilt that to even whisper the words was more than they could bear. Without realizing it, the moment they picked up the flier was the beginning of their healing process. God met them at the door of the support group and from that first step inside He loved them to life.

Maybe God is calling you to begin a support group for hurting women in your area. If you’re interested and feel this is something the Lord is calling you to do I’ll be happy to help you get started. I led these support groups for 12 years and know that Christian based support groups are much needed. I know of none being held yet 1 in 3 women have been sexually abused as children.

Feel free to e-mail me at if interested.

Blessings to you.

“Had it not been for a Support Group…” A Testimony.

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Forgiveness is a Choice

Written by Jeri R.  Angels by Grace Pub. – July 2003

Had it not been for a support group I was a member of about a year ago, I probably would not be writing this testimony.

I can remember the day that I went to make arrangements to have chemo. I was on my way home from making the appointment when I suddenly thought, “I will call my mother as soon as I get home” and then the most overwhelming feeling passed over me. I can’t describe it.

I said to myself, as I drove on, “After all the things that she had done to my sister and I, regardless of how she always handled our situation, that I would never be able to discuss anything with her again.”

My mother handled the sexual abuse of my sister and I with denial and cursing us. She called us both liars and I finally gave up trying to talk to her about anything.

Driving along the road leading home from the doctors office I felt real sadness, realizing I couldn’t even tell her that I now have cancer.  I know that I would not have felt anything; good, bad, or indifferent about her had it not been for the teaching in the support group on forgiveness.

I will always be thankful to the leaders for showing me and others how important it is to forgive. I made a choice to finally forgive my mother after all these years the night of that teaching. With the love and support of the others in the group I forgave my mother and that forgiveness has lifted so much hurt from my heart.


NOTE: Jeri was in her late 70’s and was a very angry controlling woman when she was finally able to forgive. She called me the next morning yelling, “What did you do to me?!” Upon questioning her, her final reply was, “I’m not mad at anyone any more! What did you do to me!?” I smile remembering this beautiful woman.

Blessings to you.