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Our goal is to expose the seamless connections between all forms of sexual exploitation. Most people ignore the role that pornography plays in driving demand for prostitution and sex trafficking, or the connections between porn and sexual violence, or the facts that pornography contributes to both the sexualization of children and to increased child sexual abuse.

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Often a physical injury results in a scar.  Did you ever think about the fact that psychological injuries also result in scars?  They may not be so easy to see like physical scars, but they are there nonetheless.

PTSD & C-PTSD are scars that result from exposure to extreme trauma or multiple traumas.  The traumas were so bad they literally “broke” a person’s brain, causing physical changes, that create some very difficult problems to cope with.

Depression is a scar resulting from living through the horrors of emotional abuse.  The constant berating, gaslighting & more of emotional abuse created depression that can last even long after the relationship has ended.

Anxiety is a scar that comes from living with someone, either a parent or a spouse who is demanding, highly volatile & unpredictable.  The constant feeling of walking on eggshells in an attempt to avoid angry outbursts creates anxiety that…

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If You Never Heal…

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15 Quotes About How to Set Healthy Boundaries

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Have you ever read the Boundaries Series by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend? I have to say that this is one of the best books I have ever read. As a former victim of Domestic Violence I had no idea what a boundary was or how I could set one. I never said NO!

I had no idea when to say YES and when to say NO! I was saying YES to people I should have said NO to. I was saying NO to people I should have said YES to. Does this make any sense? Do you struggle to set boundaries in your life?

I was literally a Chameleon. I was so starved for attention that I became whatever the man in my life wanted. I was a prep for the engineer, I was a biker for the biker, etc. ad nauseum. I literally had no idea what Diana liked or wanted. Seriously. I was a doormat.

But not anymore, lol! Seriously, this book changed my life. It really helped me. And NO, they did not pay me to say this. What books have helped you with life? Yes, I know, the Bible. Me too. Any others?

15 Quotes About How to Set Healthy Boundaries

  1. “We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.” ― Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
  2. “Emotions, or feelings, have a function. They tell us something. They are a signal….Anger tells us that our boundaries have been violated. Much like a nation’s radar defense system, angry feelings serve as an “early warning system” telling us we’re in danger of being injured or controlled.” ― Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
  3. “Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.” ― Dr Henry Cloud & Dr John Townsend
  4. “When we ask we are owning our needs. Asking for love, comfort or understanding is a transaction between two people. You are saying: I have a need. It’s not your problem. It’s not your responsibility. You don’t have to respond, but I’d like something from you. This frees the other person to connect with you freely and without obligation. When we own that our needs are our responsibility we allow others to love us because we have something to offer. Asking is a far cry from demanding. When we demand love, we destroy it.” ― Henry Cloud and John Townsend
  5. “When two people are free to disagree, they are free to love. When they are not free, they live in fear, and love dies.” ― Henry Cloud and John Townsend
  6. The most basic boundary-setting word is “no.” It lets others know that we exist apart from them and that we are in control of ourselves.” ― Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend
  7. “When one person is in control of another, love cannot grow deeply and fully, as there is no freedom.” ― Henry Cloud and John Townsend
  8. “The best example of a safe person is found in Jesus. In him were found the three qualities of a safe person: dwelling, grace, and truth.” ― Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend “We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.” ― Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
  9. “Emotions, or feelings, have a function. They tell us something. They are a signal….Anger tells us that our boundaries have been violated. Much like a nation’s radar defense system, angry feelings serve as an “early warning system” telling us we’re in danger of being injured or controlled.” ― Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
  10. “Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.” ― Dr Henry Cloud & Dr John Townsend
  11. “When we ask we are owning our needs. Asking for love, comfort or understanding is a transaction between two people. You are saying: I have a need. It’s not your problem. It’s not your responsibility. You don’t have to respond, but I’d like something from you. This frees the other person to connect with you freely and without obligation. When we own that our needs are our responsibility we allow others to love us because we have something to offer. Asking is a far cry from demanding. When we demand love, we destroy it.” ― Henry Cloud and John Townsend
  12. “When two people are free to disagree, they are free to love. When they are not free, they live in fear, and love dies.” ― Henry Cloud and John Townsend
  13. The most basic boundary-setting word is “no.” It lets others know that we exist apart from them and that we are in control of ourselves.” ― Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend
  14. “When one person is in control of another, love cannot grow deeply and fully, as there is no freedom.” ― Henry Cloud and John Townsend
  15. “The best example of a safe person is found in Jesus. In him were found the three qualities of a safe person: dwelling, grace, and truth.” ― Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend

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First Legally “Non-Binary” American Gets Designation Reversed, Says Gender Ideology is Fiction

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First Legally “Non-Binary” American Gets Designation Reversed, Says Gender Ideology is Fiction

The first man to be legally declared “non-binary” has reversed course and successfully petitioned a court to restore his designation as a man after realizing transgender ideology was all a lie.

After beginning to identify as a woman in 2013, James Shupe became a hero of the transgender community for making history by receiving his “non-binary” designation back in 2016. Now, that’s all changed.

In an interview with PJ media, Shupe disclosed all of the problems that taking prescribed cross-sex hormones had on his health.

“I ended up in the psych ward three times because of hormones. I had blood clots in my eyes because my estrogen levels were 2,585 instead of 200, low bone density, problems controlling my bladder, and emotional instability. Blood tests indicated I was dropping into kidney disease territory for about 18 months, I had chronic dermatology issues and skin reactions to estrogen patches. I passed out on the kitchen floor from Spironolactone,” he said.

In 2017, Shupe began to realize that he had been duped by gender ideology. In January 2019, he took a big step towards reclaiming his birth sex and drove to a DMV to ask for a new driver’s license that designated him as a male.

Speaking of another woman, Jones David Hollister, who is currently trying to change her legal designation to non-binary, Shupe said, “I hope that Hollister and all the others are denied the right to change their sex to non-binary because it’s fraud and legal fiction based on pseudoscience. I was indoctrinated to believe that I had this thing called a gender identity and that suppressing it was causing my mental health problems. It was all a lie.”

Prior to being “cancelled” for his decision to live again as a man, The New York Times wrote a profile on him touting his transgenderism. And after being legally declared “non-binary,” Oregon Live immediately hyped the news in a story that paints a glowing picture of transgenderism as “exciting.”

Now, Shupe says the media won’t talk to him. “Not a single Oregon media outlet has been willing to talk to me, let alone report that I’ve reclaimed my birth sex and have denounced gender ideology,” Shupe told PJ Media.

Despite the claims of transgender activists, cross-sex hormone therapy causes massive harm to those struggling with gender dysphoria, as James Shupe evidenced. It is not compassionate to treat a psychological problem by attempting to medically transform one’s body.

In a closing statement to PJ Media, Shupe said, “It’s an incredibly painful thing to walk back a landmark court decision that made you internationally famous and admit the whole thing was based on lies and deceit.”

Additional Resources:

Focus on the Family: Transgender Resources

New Resource for Parents: “Responding to the Transgender Issue”

When Transgender Issues Enter Your World

Resources When Your Child Encounters LGBT Ideology at School

Sex Ed Identity Crisis

 

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Leave Behind…

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I’m a bit hesitant to say I hope you had a wonderful Christmas because so many of us will scrunch up our faces just thinking about all these holidays right in a row, because Christmas time and all the holidays bring back memories we would rather not have surface. It can, and often is, a time that we want to hide under the blankets and wait for it all to be over.

The commercials are enough to drive anyone nuts with all their pushing of “you’ll be better with…” and “a time for family, friends, and fun.” For those of us that survived tremendous trauma in childhood, that will, or can bring back, flashbacks that are not fun or friendly.

But I have good news.

Those holidays are now past and we can, yes we can, leave behind those difficulties and look forward to a whole new year.

“THEY HAVE GREATLY OPPRESSED ME

FROM MY YOUTH,

BUT THEY HAVE NOT

GAINED VICTORY

OVER ME,”

That’s Psalm 129:2 and if you believe that verse then 2020 will be even better than 2019. We have a Lord and Savior that knows all of our deep pain and He is our Almighty Healer.

With each step we take in our healing journey He is right there with us. He will bring out of the darkness what is hidden and once exposed, and truly looked at, the light of His saving grace will heal it.

That sounds so simple I know. But I also know it is not quite as simple as it sounds because I have gone through those painful steps myself.

For many years Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years, was something I absolutely dreaded because of past memories, but when I found that verse it was His light shining into those dark places and gave me the encouragement, strength, and fortitude to carry on in spite of what happened in the past.

I pray that as we all step into this new year that we will forge forward with new hope, new insight, and new healing, and embrace the wonderful things that the Lord has planned for us.

You can do it!

So have a …

HAPPY, JOY FILLED, PEACEFUL, AND PROSPEROUS 2020

 

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