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One of the wonderful gifts of WordPress is the community of bloggers that support, encourage, and accept each other exactly for who they are. I have found this to be especially true in the mental health community. Five years ago I had the pleasure of meeting my survivor-sister. She’s a brilliant writer who has agreed to illuminate what for many of us survivors is hard to talk and write about. Ritual Abuse. Although we live on separate continents and we are decades apart in age, our bond, our stories, and trauma are very similar. I’m humbled to get to introduce her bravery to you. It is with great pleasure and an honor to share with you, Illuminating the Un-illuminated
The very best way to counter darkness is illumination, and how do you illuminate something? You drag it out of the shadows, and you shine the brightest of spotlights right on…
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It is not always easy to tell if child sexual abuse is happening especially if the possible abuser is another child. Remember, you are not on your own; you only need to decide that it would be helpful to have someone else look at what is going on.
Do you know someone who:
- Takes younger children to secret places? (e.g. forts, hideouts,woods, etc.)
- Plays “secret” games with younger children? (e.g. doctor, “pants down” games, etc.)
- Plays games with a child that the adolescent would otherwise avoid or hate? (e.g. adolescents playing “house” with a child of five?)
- Experience sudden wide range changes in moods or habits? (e.g. refuses to leave his or her room or expresses anger in unexpected outbursts)
- Insists on hugging or kissing a child when the child does not want to be hugged or kissed?
- Tells you he or she does not want to be left alone with a child?
- Becomes anxious when he or she is told about a particular person coming to visit?
- Focuses intense attention on or is overly interested in the physical maturing of children? (e.g. comments on or is overly interested in the developing bodies of others)
- Uses frequent sexualized language in commonplace settings? (e.g. “I’ll stick my xxx in your mouth if you don’t…”)
- Shows sexual materials to your children?
- Makes obscene phone calls?
- Shares alcohol or other drugs with younger children or teens?
- Exposes his or her genitals to younger children?
- Forces sex on another adolescent or child?
If you answered yes to either of the last two questions, you need to get professional help for the adolescent or the child. For a list of professionals in your area (Georgia) call 1-800-CHILDREN (1-800-244-5373)
A program of Prevent Child Abuse
Touching behaviors include:
- Touching a child’s genitals (penis,testicles,vulva,breasts, or anus) for sexual pleasure or other unnecessary reasons.
- Making a child touch someone else’s genitals, or playing sexual (“pants down”) games.
- Putting objects or body parts (like fingers, tongue or a penis) inside the vulva or vagina, in the mouth, or in the anus of a child for sexual pleasure or other unnecessary reason.
Non-touching behaviors include:
- Showing pornography to a child.
- Exposing a person’s genitals to a child.
- Photographing a child in sexual poses.
- Encouraging a child to watch or hear sexual acts either in person or on a video.
- Watching a child undress or use the bathroom, often without the child’s knowledge (known as voyeurism or being a “peeping Tom”).
If you recognize any of these behaviors and do not know how to talk about these issues, or you want further information, in Georgia please call our helpline toll free at 1-800 CHILDREN (1-800-244-5373)
A Program of Prevent child abuse
If a child tells you that he/she has been abused, there are five important things to say during the initial conversation. These are:
- I believe you.
- I am glad you told me.
- It is not your fault this happened.
- (Sexual) Abuse is wrong.
- I will help you so that it will stop.
The following are examples of possible ways to begin such a conversation. Use these only as a guide and adapt to fit your style of talking.
- I have been worried about you lately. Is there anything that you would like to talk about?
- Something seems to be bothering you. Would you like to talk so that I may help you?
- I have been able to help other children who have problems. If you would be willing to tell me what is bothering you, maybe I can help you, too.
- If a child asks you to promise not to tell anyone, it is important to let the child know that yo are not able to promise that right now., but you do promise to help him/her in anyway you can.
- If a child describes a problem that is happening to a friend, ask him/her if anything like that has ever happened to you (the child).
Responses to avoid:
- Are you sure that is happening?
- Are you telling me the truth?
- Why are you telling me?
- Let me know if it happens again?
- Why didn’t you stop him? or What did you do to make this happen?
Prevent Child Abuse
God created the rose for Women.
It represents beauty.
Its petals represent soft skin.
Its leaves represent outstretched arms,
always loving and giving.
Its stem represents strength.
I give this rose to you,
for you are special to me.
Each time you look at the rose, remember…
YOU are SOMEBODY.
God did not take the time
to make a nobody.
If you live in America…
Well, hello neighbor.
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