Maryland Car Dealership (courtesy of Chrysler/Jeep), Author Christopher Ziemnowciz a/k/a CZmarlin (PD)
Few people enjoy negotiation. Most find it unpleasant, if necessary. But, for abuse victims, negotiation can be immensely painful.
Why is this? After all, most adults have been “bargaining” since they were children. Just one more game. Just one more story, Daddy. Pleeze, Mommy, ple-e-e-eze.
Most people bargain with at least some expectation of obtaining what it is they are after. That expectation is based on past experience, and a degree of prior success. It pre-supposes an opponent can be persuaded to modify his/her position, perhaps even relent.
The experience of abuse victims is entirely different. We were forced to bargain with the devil.
However else the abuser may have appeared to the world, however pleasant or sincere s/he may have seemed, however refined, relative to us s/he was evil incarnate:
- more mature, intellectually;
- erratic and confusing, with…
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