“We have every right to expect appropriate behavior around us.”
A plank in the 2012 platform of the Republican Party called for illegal immigrants to leave the United States of their own accord. Mitt Romney, the Republican presidential candidate that year, took quite a bit of flack for supporting the approach (grandly titled “self-deportation”) .
But this is not really a post about illegal immigrants.
What abuse victims have in common with illegal immigrants is that we both self-monitor. We are, in other words, inclined to observe ourselves closely in the effort to project an acceptable image, an image of “normalcy” and control, whatever the turmoil within.
“Travel Caution,” Author Jasonctillman (CC BY-SA-3.0 Unported)
By itself, self-monitoring is not a bad trait. Even people who have never been abused worry, from time to time, whether their feelings and responses are normal. We are taught from childhood to play nicely with others, and not run with scissors. Those unwilling to adjust…
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