Anger was a huge part of my survival but the Lord showed me, many years later, I don’t have to live with anger. He will heal our anger if we allow Him to.
Abuse creates a deep wound, leaving behind many emotional, psychological, and spiritual scars. Our experience of reality is altered, our view of the world skewed.
Above all, abuse teaches victims that they are worthless.
Anger is a step in the process of recovery from abuse, in much the same way that anger is a step in the process of grieving. As victims, we mourn what we have lost – what has been stolen from us. The time, the innocence, the confidence.
Initially, victims may have difficulty “finding” their anger about this. They will frequently rationalize the actions of their abusers – minimizing the harm done, and blaming themselves for events (though without cause).
The rationalization is simply how victims cope with damage so profound they can hardly describe it, and emotions that threaten to be titanic.
When Christians characterize victims’ anger as unacceptable, they imply – intentionally or not…
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