Written by “Your Sister in Christ” – Angels by Grace Pub. April 1997
You know for the longest time I was in denial of what took place in my childhood. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t block it from my mind and make believe it never happened.
Unfortunately those memories are still very vivid and when I least expect it they replay themselves. To cope with the confusion and awkward feelings though, I began to question the memories. In turn, without realizing it, I was excusing the offender’s actions.
I asked myself over and over, “Was it really abuse? I didn’t lose my virginity! Was it really abuse? I don’t think it happened that often, I can’t remember! Was it really abuse? Abuse sounds so horrible!”
Yes! It was sexual abuse! Just because my story is not as tragic as some, it does not make it insignificant. I was violated and taken advantage of as a child and scars were left.
Abuse is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as: :To maltreat; to misuse; to use with bad motives or to wrong purposes. To violate; to defile.” Well guess what? Here are the answers for the questions above; it was wrong for me to be “touched” as a child.
It does not matter whether I had lost my virginity or not. It does not matter how many times it happened, once is enough to leave scars. It matters that a child’s innocence was violated.
We need to realize that sexual abuse comes in many different ways. It’s not always a rape, or a pattern established by the offender that is repeated numerous times.
I believe the majority of women have experienced, at one time or another, some type of sexual abuse. We need to stop making excuses for our offenders. Those people who by their un-Godly actions have contributed negatively to our character.
The good news ladies and gentlemen is that in Christ we become a new creation! So, I commend you all for your courage to speak up and speak out. You are triumphant! You have reached so many, including myself.
I have begun to read this magazine (Angels by Grace) on a regular basis and your poems and stories of success are an inspiration. Continue the good work!
FOR FURTHER INFO. ABOUT WHAT SEXUAL ABUSE IS GO TO MY POST: “What is Sexual Abuse?” 6-30-14 It’s in my archives.
Blessings to you.