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“It is God who clothes me with strength, and who makes my way upright;” Ps. 18:32

Blessings to you.


Rocks in my Garden

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Adam and Eve had the perfect garden to live, laugh, love, and dwell in. They had the perfect relationship with each other and with God until the serpent slithered in. The devil is out to destroy us! He is out to destroy any relationship we may have with Almighty God. That is his sole purpose and he will use any means to accomplish his goals.

The serpent (abuser) slithers in and through deception and manipulation builds the trust of the child. Slowly and gradually the child’s trust is built and then suddenly is destroyed. Like a coiled rattle snake the devil strikes. Abusers do not strike just once. They keep coming back, over and over and over again. Most have more than one victim. And each time they strike it leaves another “emotional rock” in our perfect garden.

Suddenly our innocence is gone. We’ve learned not to trust anyone. Our heart begins to harden and anger fills our being. Bitterness is like a boulder weighing us down, and guilt rides on our shoulders. Shame is so deep we cannot speak of it. “If they really knew me they would not like me.”

Without intervention on the child’s behalf the rocks keep building. The pile becomes larger and deeper and wider. The child who was born to be happy and grow into a productive God fearing person is now weighted down with the baggage of a life filled with fear, doubt, guilt, and shame. Their self-esteem is lower than a basement floor, and many cried out but no help arrived. Now as adults we are still weighted down by the residual effects of the evil perpetrated against us as a child.

The devil whispers in our ear, ” If God really cared He would have stopped it! He doesn’t care about you! ” Satan just threw the all-time biggest bolder on the top of our rock pile. If we believe that lie, the devil has accomplished his goal!

“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life.” John 3:16

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” John 10:10

I remember one time when I cried out to God, “Why didn’t You stop him!?” The Lord gave me a mental picture of Jesus kneeling, with tears streaming down His face, praying to the Father on my behalf while I was being raped. It made me furious! “That’s ALL You did! You just prayed!” I screamed. I didn’t understand, at that time, how the Lord Jesus intercedes on our behalf. I didn’t understand that because He gave humans free will that He could not reach down and slap the tar out of my Dad and make him stop what he was doing to me. I wish He could, but He can’t, because He gave us the free will to sin or not to sin.

And the devil takes full advantage of that free will offered by Christ. It is the devil’s influences that are taking place within the abuser. “The devil made me do it.” Don’t even go there!

We humans have a God-given inborn sense of right and wrong. It is instilled within us as early as the womb. The abuser knows he/she is doing wrong. Why else are we told to not tell? Why else are we threatened in a variety of ways if we reveal the evil being done to us? The abuser knows it’s wrong and chooses to do it anyway!  

“But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve,…”Joshua 24:15

The action the abuser chooses leaves his victim devastated. The younger the victim, the longer the duration of the abuse, the more emotional rocks (damage) we’ll have in our previously beautiful garden.

Did anyone ever tell you that Christ is also a Landscaper? He knows what weeds to pull, He knows how to crush the rocks and boulders, and He’s very proficient in trimming those dead branches. He wants us to be the beauty in which He made us and He knows how to rid us of those rocks in our garden.


In your journal, draw a container and a basket.

At the time I did this I called it the rocks in my well. Call it what you like, but draw some sort of container, and ask the Lord to reveal to you what emotional rocks you have.

It helps if you draw something that the rocks fill up. The visual of something full is more effective than a list on paper.

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As we go along the various issues will be talked about. As you pray through the various issues and the Lord brings healing you can remove that “emotional rock” and place it in the basket that you have also drawn. Name your basket whatever you’d like; trash basket, healed basket, praise God basket, etc.

If you want a really powerful image use various sized real rocks and print the issue as the Lord gives it to you on each rock. (Careful of your back, there may be some big boulders.) As each is ministered to, place the real rock in a basket on your desk. Great reminder of what God’s doing and the accomplishments you’ve made.


Tell us how you’re doing with your journaling. What is the main problem you have, if any, with journaling? Share your thoughts with the rest of us in the group. (Leave a reply section below)

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Lord I ask in Jesus Name that as these beautiful people seek Your wisdom that You will reveal those issues they still struggle with and we will give You all the praise, honor, and glory. In Jesus Name, Amen.

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Blessings to you.

Healing doesn’t happen over night.

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Blessings to you

Do I really need to journal?

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Many people journal for various reasons. Journaling is a place where we can sit back and tell it like it is. We have a safe medium where we can spill our guts out with no condemnation, no judgment, no one peeking over our shoulder telling us we’re doing it all wrong. We can say what we want, we can cry out to the Lord in desperation or in praise and worship. A journal is our safe place to say anything and everything we want. It can be a diary of our hopes and dreams, of lessons we’ve learned, of failures we’ve had. As the pages are filled we can one day look back and see where the Lord has brought us.

So the answer is yes. In my opinion it is vital to journal when going through the healing process. Many survivors have flashbacks. It may be bits and snippets of the past abuse or it may be a smell, a song, a phrase, a touch, that triggers a memory. These need to be recorded and looked at more closely. Some have dreams and don’t understand where the dream came from or what it means. By recording these instances they can be prayed over, discussed at a later date or just left for future examination and maybe even ignored.

For many years I had a recurring dream that I never understood. It was just one image of a small hand but it would leave me awakening with fear. When I started journaling I described the dream in one of my entree’s. It was sometime later as I was writing in my journal that it seemed the Holy Spirit took control of my pen and suddenly there was the answer to that recurring dream. The Lord revealed exactly what the dream was. It wasn’t a dream, it was a recurring memory! He explained the memory. Once I had that understanding I have never to this day had the dream again.

Pray before you journal. Give the Lord permission to reveal whatever it is He knows needs revealing at that time. He promises not to give you more than you can handle.  (1Cor.10:13)

I hear you! I hear the groans and long sighs of “Do I have to?”  No, you don’t have to but your understanding and freedom will be much quicker if you do. I hear your excuses; “But I don’t know what to write in a journal. I sit down and nothing comes.” That’s why you ask the Lord to be a participate in your journey. He knows what needs to be revealed.

I’ll be making suggestions in the assignment section of the posts to help but that does not over rule what the Lord may want to reveal to you. I have found many times when I begin writing about something on my mind the Lord eases it into something that is on His mind.

Another example in my journaling was when the Lord revealed I was getting in His way. How was I doing that? I was focusing on what I wanted and didn’t want. “I don’t want to go there!” I was refusing to look at a particular area of pain. It was crucial for where I was at on my healing journey. I could refuse to delve into it or I could allow the Lord to do His healing.

It is your decision as to how serious you are about confronting  your pain. “But I don’t have time!” I hear you, but, we always make time for those things that are important to us. Journaling helps you! When you open that journal weeks, months, or years later it is an eye opening experience, and quite gratifying, to see where you were and where the Lord has brought you now.

I encourage you to share some of your thoughts in the discussion/comment section below. That’s what a support group is, sharing. We learn from each other and grow, we encourage each other, and we pray for each other.

Now let’s get started.

Question: How difficult was it for you to think of 10 positive qualities about yourself? Share your thoughts, I’ll bet you aren’t alone.


Lord I ask that you be with each survivor as they put their pen to their paper. I ask that you manifest Yourself to them and help them in healing. In Jesus name. Amen.

“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Matt.11;28-30


Look up: Phil. 4:13, Phil. 1:6, Ro.8:37, Is. 43:2, Is. 40:31

Listen to what the Lord may reveal and write what each of these says to you personally.

Do you believe what they say?


Blessings to you and I hope to see you next week.

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